In his classic article, "Masculinity as Homophobia," Michael Kimmel talks explicitly about this sense of powerlessness among men. Kimmel writes that, while this feeling of powerlessness among men is "real," it is not "true" in that it doesn't account for "the social power that men continue to exert over women and the privileges from which they...continue to benefit--regardless of their experiences as wounded victims of oppressive male socialization." A video spoof of the Dodge Charger commercial nicely illustrates Kimmel's claim about the continued privileges and power men enjoy at women's expense.
"Women's Last Stand" - http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ou5Ens-qNRc