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A Student Conversation & Review of the Film "The Mask You Live In"

6/8/2015

 

We were so excited to watch the film. We had already spent a bit of time discussing and reading about masculinity and social inequalities in our Sociology of Gender class at Hamline University. When we learned that we'd be one of the first groups of students in the country to view The Representation Project's highly anticipated new documentary The Mask You Live In, we felt privileged. Our Sociology of Gender class, taught by Professor Valerie Chepp, partnered with Professor Ryan LeCount's Introduction to Sociology class for a joint screening of the film (and free pizza!). We were given a few prescreening clicker questions about gender issues, norms around masculinity, and what we thought about gender inequality. Interestingly, one of the results of the anonymous clicker questions showed that, when asked, "When you hear a reference to ‘gender issues,’ which group(s) come immediately to mind?," the vast majority of us thought about “girls and boys,” “men and women,” or “girls and women”; only roughly 10% of us thought of "boys and men." 

The day following the screening, our two classes met again to discuss the film’s content and our reactions to the film. We alternated between small and large group discussions. The large group discussion encouraged more students to engage in the conversation, whereas the small group discussions were a bit more difficult to have given the challenging and sometimes sensitive nature of the topic. Overall, it was a great experience. The film was awesome and it was nice to step out of our routine classroom setting to discuss the complex issues surrounding masculinity.

The documentary is centered around the question: What does it mean to be a man in America? "Be a man," "grow some balls," "man up," "don’t be a pussy," "don’t cry," and "bros before hoes" are all sayings used to police masculinity for men and boys. The film provides a front row seat into the rarely discussed but highly prominent presumption that, in American culture, there is an "ideal" way to be a man. The film explores how damaging this ideal can be to our men. To combat this damaging ideal, the film introduced us to a number of men, coming from a wide range of backgrounds. Many men spoke about their experiences and revealed how ideas about masculinity shaped them. The film also provided the viewer with a number of statistics, some unsettling, and many surprising.
 
We each had our own reactions to the film. Below, we place our unique perspectives in conversation with one another. Three themes from the film really stood out for us, and we frame our discussion around these topics: intimacy, policing, and athletics.

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Our Conversation

John-Mark: Something I found particularly striking was the difference in the way boys of different ages expressed their emotions. Young boys were prone to describe their closest relationships with terms such as “love” and “caring.” However, as those boys aged, they ceased using these terms. Beyond a mere alteration of semantics, this reflects a fundamental shift away from intimacy in the relationships themselves. By the time they reach adolescence, boys have largely lost intimacy in their relationships with other boys and men. The damage in this is that it destroys boys’ ability to experience intimacy as men, be it with their fathers, friends, siblings, or children.
 
Nyjee: I definitely found that interesting, but I wasn’t at all surprised. As the documentary expressed, intimacy is feminized and for a man to be considered “a man” he cannot be feminine. That really sucks. It seems as if all the characteristics that are fundamental to being mentally healthy (such as intimacy, compassion, and empathy) are feminized and many men become increasingly disconnected from these characteristics as they grow older.
 
Alexandria: I really liked the example of Steven and his young son, Jackson. Steven really stepped up when he told Jackson’s mother that he would raise him on his own if she didn’t want to. Steven showed how he had to struggle with letting down his guard in order to express compassion and intimacy. These were things he was never shown by his own father. He really had to break down his own barriers after Jackson said, “Daddy I’m sensitive.” Steven then went on to research how to be “sensitive” in order to have a better relationship with his son.

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This kinda leads us into the topic of policing. Men and boys are constantly policing each other’s behavior. If they show too much emotion they are called, “sissy, pussy, pansy, etc.” And if they don’t show any emotion they are considered "weird, psycho, or unapproachable." But how, in a society of such mixed signals, are men and boys supposed to find a way to express themselves without being told they are wrong?

John-Mark: I think that’s the crux of the matter. Boys can’t express themselves without being told they are wrong. Or at least, they can’t express any emotion other than anger if they want to avoid sanctions from their peers. Somehow our society has latched onto anger as the sole acceptable masculine emotion. You can see that in just about every depiction of masculinity in popular culture. All of that pressure builds up into a prohibition on any positive, healthy expression of emotion by men. That must have devastating effects on men’s mental health. 

Nyjee: You guys are so right. Men bottling up their emotions reaps very real consequences. The documentary gave startling statistics on men and depression. Depression is feminized, but I think it’s imperative that we redefine depression. Dr. William Pollack stated in the film that depression manifests itself differently in men and women. We naturalize men expressing anger and aggression; we almost expect it. Anger and aggression are the early symptoms of depression in boys. Given that very few boys seek help with their depression, it is not surprising, as the film notes, that every day three or more boys commit suicide. It’s so troubling that so many boys don’t seek out or receive help. The film also made clear that there aren’t enough role models in boys’ lives to encourage them to seek out help and talk about their emotions, other than anger.

In addition to intimacy and policing, I also love that the film explored the relationship between masculinity and athletics. Excelling at and having an interest in sports is often assumed to be the default position of being a man in America. Many men, from the moment they are born, are inundated with baseballs and basketballs and the expectation of athleticism. I loved Joe Ehrmann’s piece in the film about debunking the commonly accepted myth that sports builds character. He says that, “In a win-at-all-costs culture, it’s strictly about winning at the expense of character development.” Ehrmann made it clear that sports cannot teach character unless the coach is intentionally teaching and implementing it every day. Ehrmann teaches his boys empathy and integrity. He wants them to become men who will be responsible and change the world. I think that that’s what coaching should be about, but today, many coaches police their teams in unhealthy ways.

Alexandria: I completely agree! A lot of athletes look up to their coaches as parental figures. Some even become surrogate parents for these players. If boys are only being taught to be aggressive, emotionless, and go for the win and not for the team, how are they supposed to learn to be men of character?
 
John-Mark: The case of Steven and his son Jackson that you brought up earlier is a perfect example of how boys can learn to be men of character. Steven was raised by his mother and so he absorbed the values that she instilled in him. Steven can then pass those values on to his son. Jackson is the beneficiary of Steven’s willingness to violate societal gender norms and promote “feminine” traits. However, Steven’s exceptionality emphasizes the lack of adequate male role models. The question is, if coaches and fathers are both out of the running for being adequate examples of manhood, are boys doomed to be denied positive male role models? Clearly, a reevaluation of the people suitable to guide the development of boys is necessary.
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A Few Critiques

John-Mark: The documentary was, in essence, a reiteration of what we learned in our Sociology of Gender class. I think that there was little new material, understanding, or indeed evidence presented that extended the value of the documentary beyond that of a simple introduction. As such, in our case, the film was not as beneficial for the Sociology of Gender students who already understood the material in question. However, that does not diminish its value for the Introduction to Sociology students to whom questions of masculinity and gender were new and puzzling. For students who have had less exposure to these ideas, The Mask You Live In serves as an excellent introduction to the sociology of masculinity.
 
Alexandria: I agree with you. For us, it was a recap of the things we had already learned or were currently learning. I also think the film could have talked more about family life, particularly mothers' roles in family life. We also didn’t touch much on mothers in our class either.

Nyjee: I agree with you, Alexandria. I would have loved to have seen a short section of the film dedicated to mothers and their role in shaping masculinity for their sons. I think that both mothers and fathers play a critical role in defining manhood and many times when fathers are absent from the home, mothers are left to teach their sons what it means to be a man. Nonetheless, the film was amazing. Although we were familiar with the topics discussed, the film would be so beneficial to most of the general public.

Some Concluding Remarks

The Mask You Live In simplified very complex ideas around masculinity through personal narratives and scholarly analysis. The film opened the door to a conversation that is rarely had. Particular characteristics deemed "masculine" are normalized in American culture and this documentary aims to deconstruct the notion that these ideas about masculinity are natural; rather, they are socially constructed, reproduced, and policed. Too often masculinity is discussed only as it pertains to femininity, as if there are no issues with masculinity in and of itself. This documentary does a great job exploring masculinity on its own terms, while being attentive to how ideas about masculinity are constantly being shaped by—and in opposition to—ideas about femininity. The film brings attention to the forces that shape and perpetuate masculine ideals and highlights the negative impact these forces have on men and boys. There will be resistance to the ideas posed in the film; however, that resistance serves only to emphasize the necessity of challenging the norms of our society.

Alexandria Swanson, John-Mark Hopkins, and Nyjee Palmer
Alexandria, John-Mark, and Nyjee are undergraduate students at Hamline University in St. Paul, MN.


Jerry
7/4/2015 04:58:27 pm

The three of you should ask a few other questions. Gender programming (and deprogramming is a much larger investment for some.) For example, why did the members of the Frankfurt School found that institution in Germany at the height of Bolshevism in nearby Russia? Why do I even mention Frankfurt School? The institution was a cunning and underhanded contributor to the collapse of German traditional society that eventually led to the empowerment and horrors of the Nazi regime. In a Hegelian dialectical manner, they helped to pave the way for what appeared to be the "betterment of society", women in industrial jobs, poly-amory, cabarets that worked to twist genders--each actually designed to further a) destabilize the nation (20s and 30s), b) they knew this would lead to a backlash of support for a future dictator to take over who promised "normalization". They were pushing both extremes. Normalization is just as unhealthy as gender neutralizing or fixing. Centralized control of social norms (in any direction ) is extremely dangerous. Your professors are likely just as brainwashed and naive as the innocent members of society during the Weimar period. That doesn't make it okay for them or you to blindly make the same errors. Like it or not, gender exists in the world for a reason. It can never be the utopia you desperately desire. If you demoralize human beings for what is integral to human beings, you too are (wittingly or) unwittingly creating a future backlash that YOU are responsible for. This is not a test. Yes, the Frankfurt School communists wished to destroy German (and all Western) integrity. Demonizing masculinity and traditional roles was initially a part of that trajectory. That's why they eventually infiltrated Columbia University, U of Chicago, Berkeley, U of San Diego here in the States in the 40s. They have been systematically influencing our own academic system since that time--your classrooms included. Consider what I've said--look it up. Don't just blindly follow the euphemistic blather you're currently tethered to in the PC world of today.

Scott
5/18/2016 11:38:22 am

Jerry makes a very articulate point backed up by damning historical context. Gender matters, and boys are different than girls. The film can easily also be viewed as thinly veiled anti-male propaganda. It advances a progressive feminist agenda masquerading as a documentary. Conceived by a woman who is clearly not a big fan of masculinity. It plainly offended me and after a brief online search, I was glad to see I was not the only one.

All the hallmarks of propaganda are on display in this film: Endless 'statistics' with no citations, glaring omissions of anything that didn't support the agenda-driven point, and media clips to support the argument that were in many cases presented diametrically out of context. This is a documentary of the Michael Moore school - argumentative and not at all concerned with balance - or facts for that matter.

The vast majority of men in America grow up healthy, happy well adjusted and completely 'male'. They don't rape women. They don't party 'til they puke. They don't shoot people. They may have been bullied in school but they managed to survive and get on with it.

The rates of suicide have remained relatively constant for decades except for a statistically marginal rise among middle aged white males. The suggested links between violent images and violent behavior, and porn and rape have been repeatedly shown to be virtually non-existent (except for those with pre-existing tendencies) in numerous studies spanning decades. None of this is mentioned.

Troubled fatherless boys, gays, frat binge drinkers and gang bangers are presented as the norm in society when they are not. Gender is confidently defined as 'a social construct' blythely dismissing both common sense and several billion years of biology. The terrible state of manhood in America is breathlessly described as a 'pandemic'. No effort was made to put any of the topic into a demographic context, thereby rendering any attempt at a solution to this very marginal problem futile. But there are few things in today's world LESS politically correct than demographics, so they were completely excluded.

Can we do better rearing boys as a society? Sure we can. Could Ms. Newsome have done better identifying and targeting the real causes of this statistically minute 'problem'? Absolutely.





Peter
7/9/2016 12:35:46 pm


Boys hide their feelings behind a mask of masculinity, while girls hide their feelings behind a mask of femininity.

Skyler
10/12/2017 07:10:09 pm

Boys hide their feelings just like all other boys the person that seems the coolest might be the same kid that has the most struggle.Kids hide under a mask cause they feel as if they are obligated to do so. Under the influence of parental supervision or other kids bullying and name calling.


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